To the guy who can't understand the girl who refuses to be happy

Everyone wants to be happy and shine with a bright smile. But sometimes it so happens that you just cannot. It's not that you don't want to be happy or you don't want to fight for it, it's just that you are so tired and worn down by the storms that you have endured for so long, that you just don't have any strength left to fight. But it doesn't mean that you don't want to be happy.

Life can be harsh at times. And for those who refuse to give in, those who refuse to give up on people and those who continue to give without any expectations, things can be a little draining at times.

No one wants to give up. But when living becomes more difficult than dying, when memories start inflicting physical pain, when situations refuse to change, when you lose all hope, when you have no strength to fight back, what do you do? You give up.

They say that sharing your problems can help in easing up the pain and perhaps in some cases help in solving the problem. But does it always help?

Not every situation or problem can be treated in the same way. Like a lock, every problem has a specific solution and can be unlocked by a specific key. But what if you lose the key or better yet, what if the maker of the lock forgot to make a key and you get locked in a closed room with no windows to let in a single ray of hope? Is there a way out? May be. Can you stay optimistic for ever? No.

If you are dealing with a girl (or a guy) who seems to have given up on happiness without any reason, your frustation is understandable. But it's not fair to simply designate the person as 'arrogant' or 'stubborn' as you do not know the underlying stories. You don't know every single incident that was so powerful that she gave up on life, that broke her to the level when she couldn't stand up and face herself in the mirror. You don't know the countless scars that years of fighting have left on her soul. You don't know the endless tears that she has shed. You don't know the emptiness that is eating her alive like a blackhole. 

Unless you know her story, you cannot understand her. Unless you don't understand her, you can't judge her.

If you really want to help her, make her feel that she can trust you. Prove that you aren't like every other person who has walked into her life without any intention of staying. Prove that you take pride in her scars. Prove yourself to be worthy of her trust. When you prove that she can trust you, she'll open up to you and share her story, every single word of it. And trust me she's worth it, because a person who has been hurt over a million times and yet has the strength to love, knows how to love selflessly and completely. And that person can never hurt another soul, ever.

Is one day really enough?

Valentine’s Day is just hours away and I can’t help but wonder why do we have just one day to celebrate our love towards our partners?

In the words of Rabindranath Tagore, “love is the only reality and is not a mere sentiment. It is the ultimate truth that lies at the heart of creation.”

If love really is that powerful and vital then shouldn’t it be celebrated every day? Shouldn’t we often take the time and e have efforts to remind our closest people how much they mean to us? Shouldn’t we express our gratitude towards them more frequently than we usually do?

Or does one day cover up for the remaining 364 days of the year?

We have Mother’s Day to celebrate the bond between mothers and their children; we have Father’s Day to thank our dads for their protection and support; we even have Brother’s Day and Sister’s Day to celebrate the bonds that we share with our siblings, but is having just one day really enough?

Is it ok to celebrate one day and ignore our loved ones other times?

Love is an eternal feeling and it makes us a better person. While being loved by someone gives us strength, loving someone gives us courage. No matter what the bond the is, the feeling remains the same and requires nourishment.

However, if we hurt someone close to us, even a fancy restaurant, red roses and a dozen expensive gifts can never make up for it.

So, if you truly love someone don’t wait for a year to admit that you do. Every day counts, every moment is precious.

Spend time together; surprise them often; flirt with them like you’re still 16; show how grateful you are and never value your ego more than the person you care about. Coz when you love someone, every day is the day of love...

Too much or too little?

They say knowledge is power and information is liberating.

But is it entirely true? Is knowing everything really a boon or is there more to it?

Knowledge is powerful. It can either set you free or pull you down under its weight.

But with great knowledge comes great responsibilities and with extra-ordinary information come some agonizing limitations.

On one hand, knowing too much before the right time can be restraining, but on the other hand, knowing too little can be equally perilous.

So when do we draw the line? How do we decide whether what we know is too little or too much?

We chase answers all our lives. We seek what is unknown, and yet when we have all the answers, it’s not enough. We crave for more. It’s like an eternal thirst that can’t be quenched.

The interesting question here is, what would happen if we knew things even before they happened? Would it avert accidents? Would it lessen the pain of tragedies?

There is no definite answer but its safe to say that it would do no good in any situation.

Future is indefinite and our each and every action holds the potential to change it.

On one hand knowing about a happy ending would make us too lethargic to act in a way that would get us the desired outcome, on the other hand, knowing about a calamity would drain us in a way that we would cease to live in the present.

The fact is that no one can live with the burden of knowing too much before the right time for a long time.

So when they say that ignorance is bliss, they say it right. In some cases, its better to close your eyes and be blind to the future than being a silent spectator to what cannot be changed.

The Thing About Truth…

They say that only truth can set you free, but they never tell you anything about the ‘truth’.

They tell you to be honest and never lie, but they never really define it.

So, what is truth? More importantly, how do we decide if a thing is true or not? Is ‘truth’ a set of commonly accepted facts? Or is it merely a belief?

How do we decide the finality of anything? And why do we depend on the absolution at all?

Is it because we love our comfort zones? Or is it because the inertia is too great to contest?

History has witnessed many great beliefs being challenged and getting replaced by new beliefs. Time has given us sufficient evidence to show that nothing is absolute.

There was a time when Earth was in the center of the universe and there is a time when we are peeping through the windows of the universe to see if we have a neighbor.

Point being, truth can be challenged in light of facts that state otherwise.

Yet another perspective that can question the absolution of truth is relativity.

Every fact, every belief, every bit of information is relative. What is right for one person can be outrageous for another. What is interesting for one can be shady for another.

To quote an example, when its broad daylight in the US, its midnight in Indonesia. Does it mean that either one of the two are false? No. It simply means that both are right, both are ‘true’ with respect to another sun but not to each other.

Common knowledge or wide acceptance elevates the status of any information from ‘fact’ to ‘truth’. But does it mean that the majority is necessarily right? Not always.

The thing about ‘truth’ is that it can be challenged and changed. So, to believe in its absolution and stop looking beyond what is already known, is not just ludicrous but also insipid.

So stop resisting and start looking for it’s never too late to explore!